Whenever the subject of interracial dating/marriage comes up, typically, these days, younger folks have a very ambivalent attitude. However, for those in my age group (not saying); we were raised in the post civil rights era/Cosby Show period. We saw both worlds: The one our parents lived in and fought for rights; and us being the beneficiaries of the struggle; our attitudes tend to tip toward the negative when it regards this subject.
When I was a 20-something, it irked me to see these type of couples, particularly Black men with white women. It just galled me to see Black men groping women that for the most part were the symbol of many lynchings. Were they insane? I just didn’t see love–only lust and curiosity. Gathering from statistics; many white women who have been involved with Black men are now finding themselves the single mothers of biracial children. And just how do white men feel when they see a white woman with a biracial child? White men are viewed as the top choice of the socio-economic ladder, and a white woman who has slept with a Black man, has historically been viewed as trash.
There is an age old myth to contend with as well–perpetrated by white males: White women were viewed as “pure” and “untouchable” by lower class men, particularly Black men. However, white women are the ones who are venturing out and choosing to mate with Black males. Why?
There are a myriad of reasons, but I want to focus on the perception that the Black community has of interracial unions. The REAL response. First and foremost, we are a conservative community and prefer unions between US (African Americans). Many African Americans, particularly older ones, frown at these unions and deep down, have little respect for Black men or women who marry whites. It’s viewed as self-hate by some. Others seem to feel that Black people who get involved with whites in particular are not in touch with their culture or history. The history of how race was used to oppress their people. It’s unthinkable to many to be waking up next to a person who’s ancestor probably either enslaved yours, and worse, may have lynched one of your ancestors. How could you love something that came from that? It’s offensive to many.
One of the most incendiary images I’ve ever seen was a white woman being embraced by a black man with the caption: ” Black men. I’m not the cure for Black women.”
Cure? What cure? Are we a disease. Really? Is this how Black women are viewed in relation to our men?
When I saw this picture–it just confirmed something that I and many Black people feel about IR relationships: A Black man or Black woman dating or marrying a white person does not represent our people in the highest light to the world. They are literally thumbing their nose at Black family. And that’s really the true insult. Something that is the symbol of hate can never and should not ever become the symbol of pride for our people.
The Black family is the most precious thing in the world and what we should all aim for as a proud people.
The multiculturalists can and will try to stand on soap boxes declaring this, that, and the other of the pros of marrying someone outside your race; but the wisest among us see through this: it’s a form of color-ism that is being promoted by the proxy of veiled White Supremacy.
As for myself: Not looking for The Great White Hope and I’m not falling for the hype.
A Black man and woman in love is the most beautiful sight in the world. That’s why Black people should value themselves more than any other. No other race can BE US–thus, we should hold our family unions in high esteem at all times.