Every day that I see young women with children–alone, pushing a grocery cart; picking up items that are to be cooked quickly–no sense of awareness of health at all, then heading to the check out counter–and pulling out an EBT card; it just galls me.
Now before people get in a tizzy; I’m not picking on single women who have raised children successfully. No. I’m talking about your proverbial baby breeder who went to the club, got drunk, slept with a strange man–then 9 months later, she had his baby. And just what did she know about him? Now…18 years later, the kid created from that one night stand has become a problem to society.
Yes. This is the typical scenario in America and has been this way for well over 30 years.
What has this done to the Black community? It has created a vacuum of instability in families, communities, and created poverty, as well as breeded ignorance.
In our community, having a mother and father in the home who love each other, teaches the children values of commitment, loyalty, integrity, love and gives stability. When these things are missing; the opposite occurs.
There are simply too many young Black children being raised without a father and it’s one of the contributing factors of so much negativity on young Black boys. If they do not have a male role model to teach them what being a man is; then what can a woman possibly teach them. It takes a man to raise a man. And on the flip side of this; if a young Black girl does not have a father in the home to teach her how a man is supposed to treat a young lady; then what is to be the paradigm when she becomes ready to date/marry?
Society today can have a myriad of what family is, but let’s stop acting stupid, please…the paradigm of society is reflected in a married structure between a man and a woman. The children are a welcome addition to the unit–and not something to be dreaded.
The young women who are on welfare raising children are not balanced individuals and typically are in need of some kind of help either, financially, emotionally, spiritually, or psychologically. The children born to these women are most often deprived of basic needs and the true tragedy is what the mother can’t give to her children in this type of situation: EMPOWERMENT to have more in life and live up to their full potential.
It’s time for people to stop being cowards and start speaking the truth.
Too many lives are at stake and I’m not telling these type of women that society is getting very tired of irresponsible baby breeders and one day the welfare is gonna get cut off.