A Letter To Halle Berry….

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Well…as some of you may now know, Halle Berry has separated from her third husband, Olivier Martinez.  Big Whoop, right?  Here she goes again, but the question I ask, as many do: What is really going on with Halle Berry and why does she keep falling for the same type of men? You attract exactly what you are and when you lay with a monster; perhaps one needs to look at the monster from within.

I thought about this and I offer this open letter to Halle to perhaps start doing some introspection and check her spiritual house.

Dear Halle,

You don’t know me, but I’ve been around since the beginning of your career in the early nineties, and I feel that it is high time that you face the real truth of your issues, past and present.

First and foremost, your white mother taught you to identify with being a Black woman.  That’s wonderful, but the fact of the matter is, Halle, your identity is not that of a Black woman–it is only cerebral.  Most Black women have other Black women to learn from, beginning with their mothers and grandmothers.  How does a white woman instruct a biracial child how to identify with her Blackness?  Basically, she can only make a suggestion, but can she give you instruction?  No.  Through examples, education and interaction; our Blackness is defined.  Phenotype is not exclusive of having a deep rooted connection to a history of a people that birthed all mankind.  What do you know of your father’s people, Halle?  Do you really know where you came from?

How then do you feel it is somehow your duty to identify with Black people if you don’t even really know yourself?  In the March 2010 Ebony, you were interviewed and you stated that you want your daughter to identify herself as Black–because to you, she’s Black.  And you qualified this statement with a presumptuous statement to the Black community: that you “didn’t want the Black community to think you had abandoned them because you had a child with a white man, Gabriel Aubry–whom you are not accusing of calling you the N-word, using the expletive “b*tch”,  and who “you say” went nuts over an article that referred to his daughter as Black.  Also in that Ebony article, you seem to then contradict yourself that you will not be asserting race on your daughter: “What I think is that that’s something she’s going to have to decide. I’m not going to put a label on it. I had to decide for myself and that’s what she’s going to have to decide – how she identifies herself in the world.”  This is duality, Halle.  Behavior typically associated with those claiming two races, but subconsciously trying to benefit from the one(white) that gives them access to arenas that monoracial Blacks have been locked out of.  It’s a cagey ruse, by not claiming to be Black–you aren’t condemned by the majority group and allowed their favor.  However, in truth, those who claim they are “biracial” and not Black, do so, willfully, as not to be labeled by something that society has demeaned. Having a white parent gives them access to White Privilege by proxy. It is a personal choice by them to play the middle; as not to totally be held in contempt by Blacks but at the same time; shrewdly not disavowing their close association with whites in order to maintain a certain comfort level as well as the benefit of having their favor because of their European/white blood.

My first question is, did you not know the character of the man you chose to have a child with? And now he’s a racist after you split up? The question here really is what makes you think that we–the Black community, is thinking what you are thinking? Why would we assume that you had abandoned the Black community, Halle? Where is this coming from? And furthermore, no Black woman in her right mind would make a statement that she’s not going to assert race on her child if she really is of that race. In a nutshell, Halle Berry, you sound ridiculous and confused.

Let’s be real here, shall we…you have had a bad history with men–period.  No one in the Black community is up in arms because you are going through, yet again, another bad break up.  It’s not his race that we question–it’s YOU that we are taking full view of.  A relationship is a reflection of character and for over 20 years, your history with men has been awful.  We felt sorry for you back in the day when we found out that Wesley Snipes was the one responsible for causing the deafness in one of your ears, that is…until your divorces from David Justice and then Eric Benet and the controversial love scene with Billy Bob Thornton’s character in Monster’s Ball.  Would a proud Black woman have subjected herself to such a racist depiction of Black female sexuality?  Angela Bassett was first offered the role, but she wisely turned it down.  Black men were shocked and appauled that the character would be sleeping–not only with a white man that was employed at the very prision and assisted in the execution of her late Black husband for murder, played at that time by Sean Combs; but Bill Bob Thornton was ugly as hell.  It was simply unacceptable.  But so goes fame…you won the Oscar for Best Actress anyway for portraying this vulgar stereotype.  Angela Basett is a far better actress and has a stronger body of work, yet, she has not won and Oscar.

Things that make you go hmmmmm…..

For me…I have an even more personal reason to give you the slanted-eye look:  Back in 1993, I was an avid listener to the Doug Bank’s afternoon show when he was employed at WGCI in Chicago.  Doug made it known to listeners about his infatuation with you at the time. Well, when the Soul Train Awards roled around that year, one of his producers was assigned to attend the show.  Backstage, she spotted you, and approached your people for a possible on-air interview at the station the next time you were in Chicago.  Apparently, she overheard you make a very unfriendly response to said person, “Well, who is he?”  The producer returned to Chicago and told Doug about this.  He was perplexed and began speaking to his listeners about your behavior–with the producer chiming in about the actuality of all that had occured.  This went on for some time, and he implored his people to try to get you on the show so the matter could be cleared up.  Well, you did come to the show some time later.  Doug confronted  you regarding what the producer had told him and even inferred that he was only trying to show you some love and support, but it appeared that you were getting a little “big-headed.”  You then got angry, flippant and stormed off the show.  Yup.  I was there.  And it was you, Halle.

In a nutshell, girl…the Black community is not buying your act any longer.  You’re a drama queen and seem to have this unusual talent for attracting abusive men.  Didn’t your father abuse your mother, Halle?  Have you dealt with that, really?   We know that you have some serious issues and it’s my advice that you seek spiritual and mental help.

Such a beautiful woman, but I find if all too ironic that you starred in a movie entitled, Monster’s Ball, yet…the real monster that seems to be haunting you is deep within.

Stop blaming the men in your life for your relationship failures and take a long look in the mirror.  From its reflection, the real truth shall be revealed as to why you can’t keep a man.

This is the cake you baked Betty Crocker.  EAT IT!!!

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29 comments on “A Letter To Halle Berry….

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  3. originalwoman13 says:

    @Truthangel
    Thank you, sis! Your blog is one of my top favorites; you speak truth to power and we need that very badly these days. Keep doing what you do.
    @Tyrone
    True Indeed! Sistas and brothas need each other more now than ever before as the we are in the last days of (racism) white supremacy and whites are working overtime in a last ditch effort to maintain their wicked system.

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    • truthangel07 says:

      This morning when I signed on; there was a white woman–the 4th or 5th one to date (lost track), who had to make me understand how wrong I was for posting comments on a blog I wrote last summer (10 Rules For White Women Married to Black Men). It was very informative as to the things Black women get irritated by when having to deal with IR couples, particularly those involving Black men and white women. Well…this child decided to go on a tangent and had the nerve to call me a racist. OH! Her superiority complex got pinched. Let me tell you…I reminded this child where she was.

      I can’t wait for her response.

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      • originalwoman13 says:

        @Truthangel07
        I remember reading that blog post (been reading your blog, but just started recently posting) and that was very much needed because white women tend to overstep boundaries when involved with black men. They tend to think we should welcome them as part of the HUEMAN family, kiss their ass, etc. NOT ME! Somebody need to put these she-devils right back in their place and let them know who they are and who they are not. Moreover, you said in a few comments back that black men are starting to speak out more against IR. I sure hope so because right about now white women are riding high on that white supremacy horse and black people (especially black men) need to bring them right back to reality.

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      • truthangel07 says:

        Oh, yes, ma’am. That is most definite and this blog is a serious REALITY CHECK for the whining white females who have made the casual mistake of assuming that WE the people in the Black community were designed to give them a ladder to perch on there pedestals.

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  4. Tyrone says:

    @originalwoman13

    Sistas Are A Blessing To Us…We Need You! Appreciate the feedback Blackwoman!!!

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  5. Tyrone says:

    @originalwoman13

    As black people, we have been brainwashed into believing that IR is pro-black. I don’t see it that way. What benefit have we gotten from members of our race jumping into bed with non-blacks? Based on what I’ve seen with my own eyes, biracials have a tendency to side with the non-black parent’s flock or some other group…Tiger Woods. Today, blackmen are running around impregnating Anglo and Asian women as if they’re blackwomen…Strange Fruit! That’s not our calling, they have their own men to provide for them sexually…Real Talk! Loving blackwomen and bringing forth black children is pro-black, some brothas need to understand this. I appreciate the admiration of other women, but, they don’t love us. How can other women claim that mantle, when in fact, they’re not black themselves? I’ve never believed in the concept of interracial love. Blacks get into these relationships for selfish reasons, not love. Some blackmen want attention, submissive women, don’t want responsibilities, etc. Blackwomen want access to the other side, money, status, and so forth. But, most blacks that swirl won’t be honest about their motives. They portray themselves as black couples, which is an insult to black folk. Their biracial children are black black black…Really? Honestly, we need to push away from this nonsense. Our race always gets the shaft when it’s all said and done.

    Halle Berry…Whiteman
    Paula Patton…Whiteman
    Stacey Dash…Whiteman
    Tamera Mowry-Housely…Whiteman

    All 4 were loooooved by multitudes of blackmen for nothing. Instead, we threw real sistas under the bus because of the redbone obsession that so many negros have…Still Lost Anyway!

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    • originalwoman13 says:

      @Tyrone
      I haven’t had this said to me personally but I have read where black people online have said they have encountered lost negro males that state that they can have a black child with a non-black woman…ULTIMATE BETRAYAL! next to thinking that a white/non-black woman is a superior mate than a black woman. In addition, to these so-called conscious negro males thinking that they can “fight the power” by bedding non-black EPECIALLY white women. Exactly what kind of power are these dudes fighting. LOL. These negroes don’t realize they ain’t doing DAMNED THANG. LOL. I told a couple of my friends I will NEVER EVER see what a black man want with any other women, especially white woman. Most of the black males I know who have engaged in the swirl are right back wit a sista.

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      • Tyrone says:

        @originalwoman13

        Only a blackwoman can produce a black human being. Some negros assume they can cut sistas out of the loop, and produce black offspring with other women…It’s A Fallacy! Just because other women spread their legs for us is no justification to hate their reflection. This issue will always nag us, because, other women can’t leave blackmen alone. I don’t begrudge any woman for liking blackmen, but, that’s not our problem to worry about. I love chocolate women…Period!

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      • originalwoman13 says:

        @Tyrone
        Very True. As you already know the Black Man is the Original Man as the Black Woman is the Original Woman and the Black Man/Woman are natural partners; we were built for each other. No matter how many negroes have children with non-black woman that is one fact that will not NEVER EVER change (although deep down I believe SOME of them know this). Some people try to change the natural order of things just to fit their own warped worldview. Who are they trying to convince? Themselves? Non-black women? Both? I believe the latter. However, It doesn’t bother me that other women like black men that won’t change, but what does bother me is that these negroes put these women up on a pedestal giving them a psuedo sense of superiority hence non-black women began THINKING that they have one up a sista because some self-hating negro chose her instead. Black women will NEVER co-sign on that; no matter who says we should. Moreover, I ‘m flattered that many non-black men admire black women but the black man is KING.

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      • truthangel07 says:

        Amen, Originalwoman! Well stated! And absolute fact!

        I’m glad you’re a member of my blog, sistah!

        Respect!

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      • truthangel07 says:

        Tyrone, Black women over the years have been very vocal about how they feel about IR’s. THEY DON’T LIKE THEM AT ALL!!! However, I’ve noticed a lot of brothers starting to speak out now. What’s the change?

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  6. Tyrone says:

    Halle is a conflicted mixed blackwoman, we can all agree on this. We focus on whitewomen a lot, and ignore the black fathers. A blackman bringing forth mixed black daughters from the wombs of caucasian and asian women, What Gives? How can these women of color be comfortable in their skin if Daddy has no love for monochrome blackwomen? This is the ugly underbelly of black male/non-black female unions. No surprise, the daughters have identity issues. Oftentimes, the black fathers of mixed blackwomen don’t love themselves, and it shows. A blackman should not bring a mixed black female into existence if he has conflict with black womanhood, Right? Blackmen repped hard for Halle, so, a lot of bitter feelings exist at this time. Some brothas will always hold a torch for Halle, whitemen notwithstanding. I never got into the redbone phase like a lot of blackmen, so, her marrying whitemen was not a big deal to me. These women are half-black, brothas need to remember this. Do we want them to love blackmen, Of Course! Can we dictate who tbey should date, No! Again, mixed blackwomen have 2 races of men battling over them. It’s not easy to navigate this minefield.

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    • truthangel07 says:

      Frankly, I don’t have any emotions toward Black people of mixed heritage; as well as those who engage in IR unions/marriage that result in children. The bottom line is this: Malcolm X asked the question in the 60’s: Who Taught You To Hate Yourself? I guess in the cases of some biracials; the answer by proxy would be “mommy or daddy.”

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      • Would Malcolm X... says:

        Approve of your cheerleading for known pedophiles? Or you being a christian? Islam & christianity both enslaved, raped, slaughtered, lynched negresses like you. Halle/you are both battling internal conflicts. North Shore. Now it makes sense.

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      • Tyrone says:

        Too many of us assume that jumping into bed with someone of another race is the answer to all our problems…It’s Not! I don’t see the benefit to our race, if we still hate ourselves. Weakness and race-mixing is a bad combo. How can we love another if we don’t love us? This goes for blackmen and blackwomen as well. Hating our heritage is crazy to me, but, it’s acceptable for us to do so. I have no ill will against biracials. But, the constant crying and whining about being tragic mulattos is tiresome. They don’t deal with the ish i deal with as a black male in 2014. Annoyed is the word that best describes my feelings. Halle Berry just adds more chaos to an issue that is complex in nature. Why do we hate blackness? Why do blackmen hate themselves and the women that birth them? We need to turn inward as a people, and put us first.

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      • truthangel07 says:

        I posted a video of the Malcolm X Speech in which he spoke about that. Here it is: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kboP3AWCTkA

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      • originalwoman13 says:

        @Tyrone
        “Too many of us assume that jumping into bed with someone of another race is the answer to all our problems…It’s Not!”
        My sentiments exactly! These unions and some of the offspring just cause more problems and confusion for us as a people. I remember Dr. Chancellor Williams in his book “The Destruction of Black Civilization” discussed “the mullato problem” one being that many times the mullato would side with the people of the non-black parent against black people.

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      • originalwoman13 says:

        Many of these negroes who engage in IR say they do it for love, but most of the time I ain’t buying what they trying to sell. Self-hatred, anger toward black men/women, revenge, etc. is in my opinion why most negroes engage in IR. This is why I do not have any confidence or respect for these unions. If you don’t love your self or other black people how do you expect your biriacial offspring to do so?

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  7. KOUNTRY says:

    I had a child by a white woman,if you can call her that.but haven’t seen my child to this day.She told me I will never see my child.So my biggest mistake was given her my time.it wont happen again.

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  8. Halle is a mixed woman whose “mixed up” in the head. She has no self identity and can’t seem to keep a man. Or just keeps picking the wrong type of men. Beautiful but so lost. I’ve met quite a few biracial women like Halle. I’ve seen this pattern of behavior over and over again.

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  9. cdjames25 says:

    This is the craziest and offensive mess I have ever read from one black women to another. How is she different from other Black women, with other Black women role models that go through the same thing. Not only does she have other black women in her life as role models she had a white mother that at least tried to raise her with the recognition of her race. And because she has had life problems, you a person admits that you do not know her feel that it is ok to write this misguided, unspiritual mess. I think the problem is you more than her. Your writing is telling.

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    • truthangel07 says:

      I see it another way and I don’t have to like anything about Halle Berry–I call it as I see them. And I’ll add; you can keep feeling sorry for a person or you can tell them the truth. Obviously you didn’t read the disclaimer on my blog: “Only The Truth Is Spoken Here. Get Used To It.” And I mean it.

      Women do not like hearing the truth. If you keep having the same results in relationships than obviously it’s not just the men–IT’S YOU. What’s the common denominator in all relationships, good or bad? YOU!

      Halle Berry is not above criticism and I really do not care if you don’t agree with what I posted.

      This is still America and as long as Freedom of Speech is in operation in it; I’ll call it as I see it.

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    • mswanda says:

      I agree with you. Damn, what did Hallie ever do you truth angel?

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  10. Adeen says:

    Good post and honestly she seems like she is lost, confused and self hating. I believe much of her issues come from the fact that her Black father wasn’t in her life so she doesn’t really know much about Black history or culture as a whole. I know she identifies as Black and that is good but does she truly know where she came from? I doubt it.

    This woman is a sad cause of a confused yet beautiful Black biracial woman who doesn’t know where she came from or knows her history. It is sad.

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    • truthangel07 says:

      Sometimes, Adeen, one has to go backwards in order to go forward. Halle needs to get in touch with her roots. Her father died and had asked her to forgive him for his abuse of their mother, but she did not.

      Sad.

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