Black Manhood is Sacred…

And I challenge the entire Black community to think about this.

One of the most powerful images that I remember is the beginning scene in the television series Roots when Kunta Kinte was lifted up as a baby to the starry night sky and his father said: “Kunta Kinte! Observe the only thing greater than yourself.”

This is heritage and what should be instilled in every black male child, but this is not the case in America.

What images does our boy children see?  Tell the truth.  They see single Black females raising children without men.  What does this do to their psyche?  How does it impact how they view themselves?

There is nothing more beautiful to me than the Black family and it seem like everyone has been talking about the Black family lately, particularly since the election of Barack Obama as the nations first African American President.  

Black women definitely have gotten too much press lately regarding why so many remain single.

Life is about choice and I feel that the Black family is something to be valued, but when I look at the numbers for how many children in the Black community are being raised by single mothers, I have a solution:


Something crossed my mind the other day: frankly, I feel that in many cases, it’s Black women who are teaching their sons to marry non Black women inadvertently by not being married to their children’s Black father.

Real talk.

Babymommas are a symptom of dysfunction, not pride.

The access to birth control is too readily available to continue the OOW birth cycle. And it’s just foolish to bring children into the world if you can’t take care of them financially.

It’s sad to think of all the Black children growing up without fathers–constantly being reminded of being a symbol of a careless hook-up rather than the joyous result of two married people in love.

Children learn a lot from their parents and one of the things they learn is how to love one another. If a Black child does not see his own mother being loved, cherished and provided for, but he sees his mother alone and abandoned; this becomes the paradigm of how he will view Black women in general. Adding to this, he sees other Black women in his community and family being treated this way–his interpretation becomes that there must be something wrong with Black women, thus, he avoids the thought of being with one.

Statistically, the majority of Black men marry Black women, but if there is some clarity to be offered; If you want your sons to marry Black women–it’s most proactive to perhaps to think about becoming wives before becoming mothers.

So many young Black children watch images every single day that tell them that they are not valued by this society. Many internalize those images. The image of white women typically is that she is the standard of beauty–the one ALL MEN are supposed to desire.   All men don’t desire white women.  But not having balanced images, particularly in the home and community, validate this presumption created through the lens of White America.

We reap what we sew and for those Black mothers who have been forced to accept white daughter-in-laws; perhaps it wouldn’t be the case if your son saw you being the object of his father’s affection.  And our young Black girls would become esteemed in the process by becoming their natural choice for wives.

What children behold–they become.

Black manhood is a precious thing–and it is the responsibility of the mother to instill that value in her male children.


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  8. Real sad says:

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  9. Tyrone says:


    We carry the seed, so, the burden is on us to advance and maintain “The Black Family.” A woman can’t impregnate herself. For some odd reason, this reality has been distorted. If we as blackmen don’t love our women…Ain’t No Love! Excuses are like the wind, they come and go. Knowledge of Self cancels out awol fathers. In a perfect world, every brotha would be in the home. However, this is not the case. Brothas gotta buck-up, none of us are guaranteed the ideal situation. God gives some of us a challenge, we’re born to bad parents. Black Manhood is sacred, but, a lot of us don’t believe it to be true. As a race of men, we have no guidelines and strategies of success to aspire. We develop and adhere to african tradition and principles, could care less about another man’s religion, dogma, lifestyle, philosophy…I Don’t Care! From the ground up, we love and respect ourselves and the women that love us. Brothas, stay in your lane? We can’t be all things to all people. This simple concept would save us a lot of grief and heartache. No one controls my mind, how many blackmen can say this with confidence? Come on brothas, this is common sense, not complex logic? Truth, Thank You For Loving Us Despite Us Not Loving Ourselves!!!


  10. mswanda says:

    Poor and working class bm marry bw. Those with money marry something else. How can you expect bw to make bm marry them? Hell, I can’t even get one to say hi to me on the streets. Now I see the burden to raise black male children is on the bw also. Where are all of the fathers of these children? I can’t teach a boy to be a man. I think baby daddies are a problem in the bc not baby mamas. See, bm are getting children with all races of women but black baby mama’s are the problem. Black men as a whole aren’t marrying at all.
    As a child black girls also saw wm on tv and we didn’t abandon bm. That’s just an excuse. So bm are just defective? So seeing ones mother abandoned makes you like wm and hate bw? BW are affected by abandonment too. Bw aren’t leaving bm. So if all these examples you put up are reason why bm are dating out I think you are wrong. I think it’s because the community aren’t make bm be responsible. Not taking care of ones children is something to be ashamed of. Blacks don’t make men ashamed anymore but we can talk about baby mama’s all day long.


    • truthangel07 says:

      This is true, Mswanda, but what happened to the wise people of our race? There was a time when we had people in the community who schooled the young.

      Some days I feel like I’m trapped by a sea of fools.


  11. adeen says:

    Great post. Black love and unity should be promoted and fostered in our communities.


  12. Nat Turners' Revenge says:

    One of the most powerful images ever recorded. What I dug most was, that lesson, that moment was unfiltered, undiluted by the white man and his brainwashing pamphlets of Shakespearean prose know as the bible and christianity.

    It was African beliefs, spirituality at its finest.


    • truthangel07 says:

      Names mean something to Africans. I had a friend who married a Nigerian and she invited me and some others to a ceremony specifically to name her baby.

      This is our culture at its finest–and why our healing will come through re-learning our past.


  13. Beautiful post sis! On point!


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