And it’s high time for Black folks to stop trying to be “polite” when white folks say or do something that offends, irritates, or angers us–which is almost daily.
From New York to California, most African Americans somewhere in this country has to work with or have interactions or confrontations with white folks who seem to think that we value their opinions or something.
How many of us have been at work and a white co-worker will come up to you–out of nowhere and have to ask you a “Why do Black people….” question, or make some remark that intellectually, “we know” is meant to mask their innate bigotry or racism.
Seems like yesterday, but it was actually over 20 years ago now when I remember this white girl named Heather who had the audacity to ask me if, get this: “Do all Black people know each other?” She had observed me talking to a friend and after the friend left, she felt the need to inquire. I just looked at the girl like she had lost her mind. I told her quite bluntly that her question was the stupidest question anyone had ever asked me. Quite naturally, per usual, the chick had the temerity to get offended, then typically, had the gall to try and defend her bigotry.
At the same company, another white woman was obsessed with this young Black woman, named Sheryl, who was a sharp-dresser. She was mystified how Sheryl could dress so well and just to suit herself, in a comment to another white coworker, she quipped that the only reason why Sheryl could dress like that was…get this: her husband had to be a drug dealer.
None of that was true of course, but Sheryl could have sued this woman for slander.
How often do Black people go through this on a daily basis?
White people seem to be obsessed with Black people. What we wear, how we wear our hair, where we buy our clothes–how much we pay for our clothes, where we live, how can we afford to live in certain neighborhoods, etc. They are always interjecting their comments and ignorance onto us, overtly as well as subliminally.
And don’t get me started on how many Black people have been casually asked by the white chick or white guy if they would ever date a white person…then stare you down to see how you’ll answer.
It’s just my attitude that many white people are pathologically racist or insane, to the point of it being so deeply intrinsic in them, having any type of positive encounters with them is virtually impossible.
I learned as a child that you have to hit white folks with the [b]ABSOLUTE TRUTH[/b]–and don’t apologize for it. *Rolling eyes* It would appear that it’s always OUR JOB to educate them about something–well, don’t spare them what they truly need: CLARITY of why you shouldn’t disturb Black people with intrusive comments, innuendo, and lack of cultural education about things you’ve never experienced most of your life or deliberately avoided.
Remember that Diversity Training was created FOR THEM–not us.
There is a part of me that I purposely keep in a cage, but I’m telling you…I’ve come close many times to becoming the domino that begins the demise of many clueless Caucasians.
Stop sparing their feelings, Black people. Tell it like it is–and walk away.