This is an oxymoron…
Strange title? Yes it is. What do I mean? What’s behind the title?
On my blog this afternoon, a young gentlemen commented on one of my posts: “Knowingly or unknowingly, sistas have been hoodwinked into believing that other women are equal to them, therefore, black womanhood is not a big deal. Meanwhile, Anglo women spend millions all over the globe to look like black women…botox for wrinkles, breast implants, butt implants, collagen shots, self-tanning, etc. Not to mention, they wanna have chocolate and caramel babies just like black women. Yet, some will say that black women are inferior, Really?”
I started thinking about that ,and my response to this basically, is that our relationships in the Black community are so endangered; there is an attitude being projected to us, that we are not good enough for each other and it is better for a Black man to marry white trash than make a Black woman his wife.
Before Black women criticize Black men for marrying white women, I have to ask: What image are you projecting to your Black son? Do you have hair weave? Are you using skin lightener? What do you watch on television? Do you read Ebony or Essence? or Do you read Cosmopolitan and Vogue (Neither have Black women on the cover). What is in your home that is making your Black son think that having a white girl is better than having a Black one in his life? Are you projecting the European phenotype subliminally? Are you one of those Black women that goes crazy over biracial or light-skinned babies? What comments do you make around your child that gives him the attitude that “white is better?”
No. I’m not trying to put the sisters down, but seriously, if most Black children are raising children on their own, you are going to be scrutinized for your parenting skills when a certain behavior is being projected.
I respect Black women to the fullest. We are the backbone of our culture and race. However, there is something that must be looked at deeply within our culture.
A few weeks ago, Kanye West married a known tramp. All I could do was shake my head. Given the reputation of this woman, she was treated as though she was the prize of the century by yet another clueless Black man who actually doesn’t seem to realize that he put another white trick on a pedestal; smiled all the way down the aisle, with a grand piano smile on his face; the appalling factor for me, was the sad fact that his child was birthed from the womb of this woman who treats her vagina like a sewer.
And this brings up another point: Some of us raise our children to be the next greatest singer, NFL player or NBA star but the only people that seem to benefit from wealthy Black men, particularly entertainers, and sports heroes, are white women. Many of these Black men are seen as an economic stimulus package; a Black brutha gets drafted, a white woman gets married. And this arrogance and attitude is fueled by White Supremacy and White Privilege.
Frankly, the last time a Black woman was in some of these brothers homes was when they poured Aunt Jemima syrup over some pancakes.
When you look at the statistical data, Black men are marrying outside of their race more than any group.
Only 1 out of every 4 Black women are getting married, yet, the solution for this, is for Black women to marry outside?
We are in a mess.
What happened to Black is Beautiful? Black love is sacred.
Black people love being everything other than themselves.
And if the title of this thread disturbs you, you better get the understanding that if we as a people don’t get it together, this is precisely what is going to become the reality, at the expense of Black women.