Black Men Who Regret Dating/Marrying White Women…

What have I done?

We’ve all seen him: the brother who acts like the hand of the FBI has come down on him because he’s dating a pale-skinned, blue veined, whiny-voiced, white chick, named Astrid. She walks a few paces behind him, as he leads, holding his head down or averting eye contact, particularly with Black women; to avoid detection that yes, he has took a dip in the Clairol and got a bleached blond in tow.

It’s always hilarious.

And how about when out in public at other places: the sisters sitting at Ruby Tuesdays, watching with X-ray vision as the brother walks in with “one of them” and sits nearby. What do they do? Start rolling their eyes, tsk-tsking; shaking their heads in disgust. And some sisters who are bold enough, actually verbally attack right there. Or just get up and move away.

The brother knows not to say anything…because after all, most brothers that date “them” are scared of these very type of sisters, right? They typically believe all of the stereotypes about white women: being freakier in bed, more submissive enablers, will do anything they say–no matter what; it’s always, “anything you say…”

Should any man be given that type of power in a relationship?

Well, I’m all for humor, but to get to the real point, every Black man is not always passionate about being with a white woman as he thought. Some, just don’t find anything new, and move on. Others really do begin to miss being with Black women, the culture recognition that Black women have, as well as the joy of just being in a good relationship with someone they can relate to on all levels. Others just think white chicks are weird and get tired of them–fast. Some get tired of always having to explain ish about certain cultural things about our people–our reactions, or just having to school the child because she’s not very street smart as sisters are known to be. And then there are some brothers who get tired of their hair everywhere. Nothing like someone coming up to you and lifting a Caucasian strand of hair off of your shirt. The shed like dogs (no wonder they love them so much). You’ll be pulling that stuff from everywhere: your house, car, bed sheets, and places you couldn’t even imagine. And then, there’s the crying white woman. They always cry about something–even if it’s stupid, but how about if they do that in front of white men…a real brother knows what that can appear to be. White women still hold to white male patriarchy and will cling to it if it gives them the subliminal advantage.

Frankly, I’m tired of the issue, but it’s a hot-button topic that just won’t go away, thus, I’d like to say, every Black man is not interested and will never be interested in being with white women, however, men are going to be men, and if he has a boner, and the chick happens to be named Ingrid, it’s a rap.

I’ve talked to many brothers over the years, and Black women have nothing to worry about, believe me.

However, it’s the perception that has become reality for many…and all I can tell you, is that the grass is not always greener on the other side and many brothers are happy to jump back over the fence.

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72 comments on “Black Men Who Regret Dating/Marrying White Women…

  1. Nut Sekmet says:

    I regret marrying a white man,he is possessive/controlling and can be belittling towards me.He uses our daughter as ransom and the fact that am an immigrant and my family is poor , never wanted me as a way to treat me like shit.He has warned me that if I ever leave him,he will have me kicked out of the country and I will never see my little girl again.We don’t have intimacy and don’t sleep on the same bed.He has threatened to kick me out of “his” house a couple of times.Called the police and social services on me when I threatened to leave him,and naturally they didn’t help me in anyway. So now I have resulted to cheating on him with a black guy also in the same situation as me with a possessive white woman but can’t leave her because children are involved plus he has a lot of money/property and risks losing all of it if he divorces her. I don’t care if anybody judges me but am happy with this black guy,and saving to move out soon.This white man called the police on me twice already as a means to control me,and am tired of this bull. Shouldn’t have married him in the first place but I came from an abusive home,poverty infested country and just wanted to get out.This guy is an energy vampire and am just not the same person I used to be before I met him,last night I made the decision that I am moving back home.Life is too short I can’t live like this forever.

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    • Truthangel07 says:

      You should never, ever, EVER, choose to be with a man because he can help you financially. Many white people in general love to go “slumming” in order to exploit those who are oppressed. I feel this man chose you because he could–in his mind, control someone.

      White Supremacy is real.

      It’s unfortunate that you’re in this situation but the only thing I can offer is that you need to find a way out before things escalate. This is abuse and also about power. Find the strength within yourself and God to free yourself.

      No one should live like this.

      May I ask what your nationality is?

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  2. ImissmyCHOCOLATE says:

    Everything in this blog is true…lol. I’m a black man married to a mexican/white woman, whom I met after having my heartbroken and a child aborted by the black woman I had every intention on marrying. I love my wife and I love our family, but I most certainly do miss being with a black woman. My older brother who is married a white woman I feel because he was always picked on and was insecure because of his dark skin. My younger brother whom I prayed would give a sister a chance is now dating a white woman and I feel it’s because he is lazy and he believes too many of the stereo types about black women. We all come from a good and accepting family with a mother who encouraged us to taste the rainbow before settling down. I long for a chocolate woman, as a sapling for the sun and often I regret not dealing with my heartbreak before starting a new life and marrying my wife.

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    • truthangel07 says:

      *Applause*

      This is by far one of the most honest comments I’ve ever read from a Black man regarding their involvement with non-Black women.

      As I’ve said, it’s just not natural for Black men to want white women or other non-Black women. It’s just not. Most are in these relationships by default–not desire. I.E., they got hurt by the “one Black woman” they loved and wanted to be with, thus, it’s an act of cowardice and revenge.

      However, many children have been born from these unions and reflect the self-hatred and self-loathing from their IR parenting.

      Black man and women are genetic equals and were made for each other.

      A lie can only hurt. The truth will set you free.

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      • Tyrone says:

        As time moves on, many will realize that unity in relationships is not a choice. Black people are special, we can acknowledge this. If we ain’t right, this planet ain’t right. I feel that much of this is baggage from centuries gone by. Stripped of homeland, family, and heritage. It made us ambivalent in a lot of ways. Most of us were never educated about this aspect of manhood. The standard line we were given…Provide & Protect! Rarely was the convo brought around to discuss expectations that our Mothers and Sisters in general expected of us. A blackwoman encouraging her black prince to remain loyal to the Sisterhood is an intimidating task. She may feel that speaking her desires openly may have the opposite effect. I disagree with that premise. Sistas have every right to expect the men they birth to respect (The Covenant). Blackness is a beautiful thing, but, it needs love and water to grow like any precious flower. Both parties have a burden to carry, however, brothas have the heaviest load…Why? Sistas can resist the lust of other men because they love us that deeply. With us, it’s more complicated. The nature of Man is to conquer and possess. And, having the daughters of another race is an addictive motive. It feeds the ego of men. We know our greatness as a body of men, but, the flesh is weak. This is the root of the problem. No sane mother wants her son to choose women of another tribe over them, it defies logic. Different will always be seen as exotic, it is what it is. A brotha can do as he pleases to satisfy his needs, but, can he see the bigger picture? We have to adjust our thinking. Our women need us, which is vastly different from the status quo. Tighten Up Brothas!!!

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    • I married interracially and now I regret I ever made this decision. Before I get the verbal beat down, let me say this much: marriage is challenging on many levels. As a black woman, I never imagined my marriage would deteriorate to the point where I no longer desire to be with him. I miss being with a black man: simply put ……some people have asked why did I marry outside my race? What attracted me to him in the first place? All my life I always dealt with black men… Had relationships that some were not good: abuse, cheating, etc. Right now I’m in an awkward position and somewhat confused. Just needed some reasonable, sound and intelligent input.

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  3. B O'Leary says:

    Racism against white women is still racism. If you can’t apprecoate someone’s generaliztion about your race or gender I suggest leaving alone the other parties. You’re entitled to your opinion. But can you honestly not see the hypocritical nature of what was written? What if I wrote a blog about white men not wanting to be south black women because they present themselves largely as uneducated and naturally terrible mothers that scream and curse at their kids in Walmart while using their food stamps in the express lane with WAY more than ten items? For whatever reason I have a feeling there would be some type of heated follow up.
    I love learning about other cultures. I grew up inner city and have formed my own opinions about stereotypes. But I’ve never allowed someone else’s opinion to really determine my belief. I think that’s the whole point to being of higher intelligence. Just saying.

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      • MsLj says:

        I would like to know how not promoting interracial relationships between black men and white women is racism against white women? I have yet to read one negative statement against a white woman on this blog from Truth Angel.
        I also have a general question. Exactly what are you searching for when you stumble across this blog and decide to be offended by the content? I have read many comments from white women in interracial relationships with black men as well as black men also in interracial relationships with white women who are very offended by this blog. I have to wonder if they as well as you are searching on the internet for places to vent their frustrations?
        If that is the case…why not start your own blog? Truth Angel is not promoting hate or racism. In fact she is promoting black marriage.
        Nothing wrong with that! 🙂

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      • truthangel07 says:

        Thank you, MsLj. I’m glad you brought that up. That’s exactly what I’m doing. And anyone who “stumbles” upon this blog, obviously should know this within the opening comments disclaimer: “What is this blog about? It’s very clear that I’m promoting Black love, community, and family values of the African American community. If you do not understand that and have negative attitudes, and views about my people, you are not welcome here–and will be banned immediately.

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    • truthangel07 says:

      Are you African American? And if not, please explain to me how global white Supremacy benefits Black people.

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  4. B O'Leary says:

    If a white woman wrote anything close to this about how white whatever have no interest in black whatever there would be some serious outrage. Hypocritical.

    I love learning about my boyfriends family, culture, etc. i learn a lot from him. And he admits to learning a lot from me and my family in return. Just. Saying.

    Sounds like “you people” see color more than I do. And I’m white. I’m only one white bitch….

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    • Libby Hooks says:

      Since you labeled yourself “white bitch” here goes. You act like you are some kind of prize that a poor black man won in a lottery! I get so sick and tired of hearing white people say they are so interested in our culture. Why? Your people destroyed most of it anyways. Thank goodness the Black/Nubian men that I know cannot comprehend diluting their Genetic Pool with that of an inferior gene. Yes I said it!!! What is to learn about a race of people whose ancestors dwelled in the caves of the Caucus Mountains??? Yet your people keep digging up our ancestors not to learn but to surpress truth. Genetically, Black men and Black women are made for each other because there is no thing stronger in this universe than the Black Union. From the womb of Black women, whole civilizations were created and the Black man seeded/populated this planet with his mates (Black Women)…for we are the original people. It’s not being hypocritical. A HUman Being should not mate with some kind of man (mankind). I’m not ranting or raving illogically. Even your own scientists have stated the superior genetic makeup and the oldest living HUman Being are BLACK. Your people have forced me to see color because by genetic makeup your people are cruel, barbaric, destroyers, and thieves. I cannot find any redeeming qualities about you are your ancestors. These are MY thoughts and guess what? IJS

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    • diouranke says:

      but white women don’t live a in a black male patriarchial society do they?? a society that was and is set up to benefit people of color do they, a society that tears down white people economically and demonizes you on ever y level.THAT is the difference, I don’t get how you all can’t see that You may not see color, but the job market does, so do the Police departments and universiities and department stores.

      it’s simply something you CANNOT understand as a white person / woman, no matter how much you listen to afro pop and reggae and watch Kevin Hart and hang out with his friends or go to Jamaica or whatever..you just wouldn’t get it because you are not black. That isn’t a crime, its life.

      why belittle it, if you truly love that black man in ur life, you’d acknowledge you CANT understand what it is to live in this society as a black person , and just shutup and listen and learn and do something to break down the barriers your people have set up.. She didn’t call anyone a ” bitch” either. I just am so sick of people not understanding and seeing white priviledge and how it has affected and shaped our history in this country, and yes that includes the way many black men view non black women.

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  5. Sweetti86 says:

    I get what you are saying. There is solidarity in every race except African Americans. Black men are mad at black women and black women are mad at black men. There are many issues and subjects designed to keep us separate. I’m all for anyone loving and being with who they want, but you shouldn’t be with someone because of someone else. Like a black man being with a white woman because he doesn’t like black women’s attitudes. The only reason you should be with someone is out of love. Anything less isn’t fair to the other party. I know I would hate for my relationship to be based off of how my man feels about another woman.

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  6. MsLj says:

    I am in love with this Blog…., keep up the good work, Diva.

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  7. Wyndi says:

    “….Interracial couples are merely the curious trying to create a false image of what they desire but can’t produce within themselves. They attack what reminds them of the truth they can’t face about themselves.”

    This couldn’t be further from the truth. It never ceases to amaze me how interracial relationships are so wrongly categorized and dissected. You should be subjected to the same negative, preconceived notions of a black woman that you have about IR couples. You would feel beyond betrayed at my depiction of you as a loud mouthed, jealous black woman who has multiple children fathered by different men, is on welfare, or else. We are no strangers to the ease at which black men and women are berated, so when WE have the opportunity to do it to others, our hate and struggles began to surface and manifest themselves in rare form.

    I appreciate you working to keep black people unified. THAT is a great thing. But you do not need to speak for that about which you know nothing in order to be a success. It takes all of us to make a change; we will not all play the same role in accomplishing that, some bigger than others, but nevertheless, we must all be involved.

    The white person who opens his heart, mind, soul, and wallet to a black person is not a bad thing. Each one teach one is what we used to say.

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    • truthangel07 says:

      We all have different perceptions and opinions. I have family members married to non-white people on both sides of my family. However, this does not make us “blood”; it’s just something you acknowledge, but not necessarily accept.

      America has a very profound history–and it was based on a racial hierarchy–miscegenation was used as a means to keep the slaves under the power and control of their white slavemasters–love didn’t have a damn thing to do with it.

      When African Americans make comments, as this topic illustrates, it is from the knowledge of history. Mulattoes were a symbol of RAPE and shame. White men dominated the bodies of Black women–and suppressed the access to her by Black men by making it against the law for slaves to marry? Why? Because when you attack the family, particularly taking the man away; it is the ultimate act of domination and control.

      Do not get angry with a Black person for objecting to the one thing that was used to destroy our people. We didn’t invent the “one drop rule.”

      White Supremacy is and still is REAL. You better overstand that.

      Interracial marriage is not the answer for racism, and I resent the promotion of it as thought it were. It is an oxymoron for any conscious-minded African American to even promote it.

      That’s where I’m coming from.

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  8. Kitten says:

    I found it! “Becky’s” YouTube video http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7hIvY4uUPD4

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  9. Kitten says:

    I decided to do some research from a different perspective…Why do white men/women date or want to date Black people? It was almost impossible to find a blog or site from a white/other women’s perspective on dating black men…just inconspicuous comments.

    Even when I do Google searches with variations of this question, it always returns results from a black perspective. If you so proud tell the world. But, I did find a YouTube video of a white woman giving her reasons. I can’t even find it again to put the link in this comment.
    • He has confidence, “he can be the most broke down and he will still hollers at me”
    • He has beautiful dark skin and a fit body
    • How he dresses
    • “He can put it down”
    These were her top 4…Nothing about his character, his loyalty or work ethic. Nothing about him as a man or human being, it was all physical.

    I found several blogs by white men on why they date black women. Even how to approach us and why they like us. Weird…huh?
    • Their Beauty and Graceful Aging
    • Curvaceous Features
    • Achievement in the Face of Adversity
    • Personality-“White men are not intimidated by the out-going, assertiveness of black women.”

    I’m not saying run out and date white guys, but it sure felt good to hear something positive after wading through the negativity of my brother’s posting on the internet.

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  10. I have a question. What should a black man or woman do if they have a baby with a person from a different race? should they just pack up their stuff and leave the relationship or would it be too late? I’m just curious.

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    • truthangel07 says:

      You should have thought about that scenario before having a baby with a non-Black person. Because I’ll tell you, your choice is YOUR CHOICE, but I’m tired of the Black community being the piss pot of confused biracial children who had the misfortune of being the offspring of bootycalls by Black males curious about what the punanny was like of a non-Black woman instead of building a strong relationship first before having children.

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  11. Real sad says:

    Lol i seen this one bm/ww couple one day and they both tried to stare at me like i was suppose to freak out tht a bm is with a ww…i just glanced at them and they looked surprised….no disgusted facial expression…sucking teeth or anything.Bm love the rise they get out of bw…stop encouraging it and bw just should get a bm tht wants her

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  12. Honey Bee says:

    Again, anyone who thinks you can not be a strong black man, appreciate your race, culture and history and be married to someone who is white has never met my husband. We live it and love it EVERYDAY, happily….Yes, you are so right, anyone who tells you they do not see color and race is lying to you….

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  13. Lucius Hood says:

    This topic always seems to make me laugh. I am often quite perplexed as to why people must proclaim why they date interracially. I am not a country music fan but, I do not spend hours on forums explaining that I don’t like it. If black men aren’t your speed keep their name and any other part of them out of your mouth. Live long and prosper and have many biracial babies. Two things however do not come up to me under the guise of solidarity and remain quiet about issued pertaining to black people. No shade or ill will but your presence and input isn’t wanted or needed. My concern isn’t black individuals but black people. YOU CANNOT BE PRO BLACK ANDROID DATE INTERRACIALLY!!!!!!

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  14. Tyrone says:

    The black male/white female dynamic was created by a subset of blackmen after slavery as a counterbalance to what was done to our foremothers by white slave barons…The Genesis! Many of assumed it was and still is about beauty, push away from that Sistas. Blackwomen are le creme’ in every aspect, even a blind man can see the obvious. The truth of the matter, is that, blackmen pursue other women because it feeds the black male ego. We’re the most arrogant race of men on the planet, not even close. Blame it on the melanin, the sun, swagger, etc. In the black male psyche…Every Woman Is Able! Meaning, all women can be touched in like fashion. All of us have this in us, whether we admit or not. Women like us, and they know that some among us have neopolitan tastes in relation to women. In other words, some brothas want to sample all the flavors. There is nothing strange about finding other women attractive, but, we as men of african descent have taken a basic reality of manhood to the extreme. Mixing in and of itself is not the problem, hating women that look like you is the problemo. Again, speaking in general terms…we want otber women to like us because it grows the pool of women available to breed with us. We’re conflicted about Becky, let’s be honest about this. If they like us too much…We Get Mad! If they hate us…We Get Mad! Whitewoman’s Creed—Daddy Don’t Forget About Us. They don’t want us to ignore them, and just smother blackwomen excessively. I used to watch stupid talk shows like Ricki Lake back in the day sometimes. Anytime a brotha would say that he only likes blackwomen, the white chicks would make weird faces in the audience. Sexually speaking, brothas are nwver gonna cut Becky off completely. No matter how much we may despise whitemen, our family jewels have a mind of their own…Nature! As african men, we have a sacred duty to advance and grow the race…The Covenant! We need to stay mindful of this. I don’t begrudge any woman for liking blackmen, but, mixiing at this time is pointless. The drugs, alcohol, violence, jail, prison, hiv/aids, and other ills cancel out the swirl anyway. If we hate blackwomen…Cancelled! If we’re dead in the grave…Cancelled! Brothas get hated on because their relationships are rooted in self-hate…Not Acceptable! How can i give love to another group of women, if i don’t love my own? When we stop the hate and killing amongst ourselves, then, we can have an adult convo about this issue. Until then, it gains us nothing to forsake our women…Bottomline!!!

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    • truthangel07 says:

      Thanks, Tyrone for this breakdown. Very well put.

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      • Tyrone says:

        @Truthangel07

        What’s Good Sis? All human beings want to be loved and desired, regardless of race. No sane brotha wants other women to see him and the rest of us as not desirable. This is the underlying challenge for blackmen. When does black male ego end and black love begin? In the past, i used to blame other women for seducing us. Over time, i realized that women are not gonna change. I had to see the stupidity of my ways at that juncture in my life. “Why am i upset with this white or asian female? We The Problem! Now, i can see the issue with clarity and focus. Our women love us deeply, we gotta take your feelings into account. No disrespect to other men, they can’t fill our shoes and vice-versa. When a blackman loves a blackwoman…the universe rejoices! There is no greater bond, no reason to apologize for it. Truth, we will always deal with this good or bad…Blackness!!!

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      • truthangel07 says:

        Tyrone, all of the images I had of Black people were positive. I’m blessed because of that. Perhaps this is the problem with many of us, we’ve seen way too much.

        However, it’s the choice of an individual as to how they respond to their environment, and I simply choose to be an uplifting voice instead of one that degrades my people.

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  15. Adeen says:

    @JayinDimension,

    I changed my mind on interracial relationships and marriages. I see many happy people in interracial relationships including a close friend of mine. I am not even 20 years old(I am a teenager) yet so my ideas are constantly evolving. I know many people in interracial relationships and most of them are happy. And it made me realize who am I to judge who should dates who. It isn’t my business. As long as the person loves the other person and treats them with respect is all it matters. Color and race shouldn’t matter in a relationship.

    However I realize that we live in a racist society. Interracial couples can’t avoid the consequences, obstacles and situations where people will question, disapprove of your relationship because they are of different racial, cultural and ethnic backgrounds. I know that many interracial couples go through these situations and it makes them question why they are together. But at the end of the day, the couple can use these experiences to strengthen their bond towards one another and get to know and understand each other better.

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    • HoneyBee says:

      Adeen – I am so glad you thought about it differently. I guess I am just lucky that both of our families support us…I know it can be an issue if they do not …Adeen – I have read your many posts and you are wise beyond your years – Yes, you are right, we certainly do live in a racist society – I see it every day….one of the big issues I run into is that racists whites think I feel like they do and behind closed doors, they talk about their hatred and just expect you to agree with them – I just have to politely tell them I do not agree with them and just walk away – they usually get my point 🙂

      I appreciate your points and taking the time to be open minded about interracial couples – again, we love who we love – and I love and respect my husband. Thanks again…..

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      • Adeen says:

        That is good. I thought about it differently because I know so many people in interracial relationships and marriages. The majority of them are happy too. It isn’t my business to judge who dates who. Skin color shouldn’t matter in a relationship. As long as the person, loves and treats you well. And I am happy to hear that you love and respect your husband.

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  16. They need to hang they heads in shame.
    We have this “sports bar” here in the metro area called Barnacles. I went to this hole once and that was plenty. It’s a place where Black men and white women go in search of each other. And for some reason Black women lower themselves and go here to end up sitting alone talking to one another as these Black men make fools outta themselves. It’s hurt me so bad that I walked out and told this group of sistas sitting there they need get the hell outta there as well. I can’t take it – these negroes are so forgetful, they forgot how this type of thing would have ended with them at the bottom of a rope or river. Or maybe they do it because of that.

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    • truthangel07 says:

      Something bad is about to happen, Hung. It’s a set-up. I’ve been warning these people for years.

      There’s a hurricane coming and Black men are going to get caught up in the storm.

      Then…and THEN, they will look for our women to help them, but there will be no helping hand for them.

      Chickens will come home to roost.

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  17. originalwoman13 says:

    Another thing, I observed how many people in IR will bash the opposite gender of their race that is in IR. For example, bm who believe that it is okay for them to date/marry IR, but it’s not okay for bw to do it and vice versa. Again, that why I say despite what people say this issue matters to people, even IR couples. lol

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    • originalwoman13 says:

      @ Adeen
      One last thing, you are only 18 years old. The only things that you should be thinking about right now is what college you want to attend, what career path you want to pursue, and just enjoying college life; after that finding a job and becoming financially stable. You know, just taking care of Adeen first and foremost. Thoughts about marriage and family come later when these things are accomplished.

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    • truthangel07 says:

      Interracial couples are merely the curious trying to create a false image of what they desire but can’t produce within themselves. They attack what reminds them of the truth they can’t face about themselves. Promoting such unions is completely counter-intuitive to me as a Black woman and I will not participate in the current state of propaganda that comes from malicious people with sick minds who hate our people.

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  18. originalwoman13 says:

    We must be clear about something. While this issue does get tiring and I myself do get tired of it sometimes, IT IS NOT GOING AWAY SO LONG AS THE SYSTEM OF WHITE SUPREMACY/RACISM EXISTS. In addition, as long as black people continue to conform to euro beauty standards and pick their partners/mate accordingly (I’m tired of this as well) this issue will be continuously brought up. That’s why this issue matters to people. No matter what people say this issue will continue to matter because we’re live under the system of racism/white supremacy that continuously tells us on a daily basis that black is inferior/white is superior. If the system of racism/white supremacy DID NOT exists and everyone was proud of their ethnicity/culture we WOULD ABSOLUTELY NOT be having these conversations over and over and over again. That’s a fact.

    Most people choose partners of the same race; are they putting down other races and lifestyles and limiting themselves? No! Many people travel the world and learn other cultures, but do not intermix/intermarry. That does not mean they have a problem co-existing or being friends with others. You CAN be ethnocentric while not belittling other peoples and cultures.

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    • Adeen says:

      You have great points. There is nothing wrong with preferring your own race over. I am quite aware that the vast majority of mankind prefers to mate and be with their own. And I am fine with that! However when I was talking about people limiting themselves to dating their own race, I directed this towards African American females. I know most African American women do love and prefer African American men. Nothing is wrong with that. Most of these women are not open to dating outside of the Black race even if it means finding a quality man to settle down with and date. Now that is limiting yourself to one race because you can find a man who will love and care about you REGARDLESS of his race.

      And African American women are the only ethnic group of women I know that is willing to limit themselves to their own men even if it means that they will be alone waiting for that right one to come along. Especially when the number of eligible Black men is dwindling and many African American males wouldn’t date an African American woman. Most women of other races and ethnicities also prefer men in their own race however they don’t limit themselves to their own race the way African American women do. Instead Most of these women take men at face value and see whether or not the man that is interested in her is:
      1) A good provider
      2) Treats her right
      3) Is Compatiable with her
      4)Genuinely loves her
      5) Is financially secure and established.

      And if the men that they are seeing doesn’t meet the criteria that I mentioned to be a good mate above, then the woman should break up with him. This is something that African American women should do instead of exclusively seeking out Black men just because they share the same skin color. Instead African American women should seek out a man who will love, treat her right and provide for her REGARDLESS of his race.

      Me, I am also a Black woman. African American women exclusively dating African American men and not receiving any reciprocity back for supporting and uplifting them has done more harm to African American women than good. I am not saying don’t date African American men. What I am saying is that more African American women should open themselves up to dating good and quality men of ANY race that will treat her right.

      I repeated myself endlessly in this post because I don’t you to get the wrong idea.

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      • originalwoman13 says:

        @ Adeen
        I understand your points and I understand why you changed your mind regarding IR. I have been thinking about how some black women have stayed alone because they didn’t find the right black man. I have given this some thought as well because it doesn’t make sense to me for a woman to be alone because at some point most if not all women want a husband and children; I wouldn’t tell any black woman to continue to give love, time, and support to so-called black men who do not love or support black women/girls. We need to let those type of lost self-hating black men go. While I don’t hate these men I have sympathy for them because they are lost and some are not tryin to be found. We black women/girls have to place more focus on the good black men. That’s what black women/girls have to start doing.

        Given the circumstances we are living under (white supremacy/racism) I understand why some black women will began to “expand their options” since so many black males are lost to knowledge of self, true black history, and the sacredness of black love. However, I believe that many of us continue and will continue to love, date, and marry each other in spite of. All of us cannot give up on each other, but because of the circumstances we’re living under I see some sistas beginning to “expand their options.”

        You’re still quite young and have a lot more to learn in this journey of life. You will cross the path of many men including black men who just may be the one. While you have your right to date/marry whomever you choose, I’m just sayin’, don’t give up black love ever.

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  19. HoneyBee says:

    I for one am glad that my husband stayed on MY side of the fence and did not jump back over – he does not hate black women, he does find them attractive – he just did not marry one. He and I were talking this past weekend and he said if he had married in this race, he would have never attended the Cambodian birthday party we went to a few weeks ago, attended a penthouse party hosted by two fabulous gay men in Buckhead last Friday night for the 4th of July or saw his Thai sister in law (my brother’s wife) get her nursing degree. We do not go to these events because I am white, we go because we are interested in widening our circle of friends and cultures.

    Life is what you make it, why would you limit youself to just your same race and put down all other races and lifestyles??? You end up missing out on so much of what life has to offer. I will always say – you love who you love – yes, we all notice race, we would be crazy to say we do not – but why would we ever limit ourselves to just our own kind? Just sayin….

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    • Adeen says:

      Exactly! People should find love wherever they find it. I don’t think people should limit themselves to one race and culture to date.

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      • Jay in the Black Dimension says:

        Wow, you flip flopped pretty quick. So you say by looking for a Black man, Black women are limitng themselves but just a couple of weeks ago, you were talking about how harmful integration was for Black people.

        Truth has one of the last blogs that I know of dedicated to Black families, love, relationships and so on. We all know this. So why do your types come here to try and discourage those who want to empower our community? Why not just find like minded people? There are scores of websites by Black women who promoted interracial relations. What’s wrong with Black people who want to marry, procreate, educate, do business with and defend our own?

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    • truthangel07 says:

      Although you are entitled to speak you own truth, my blog is not a dating site for those who are looking for interracial hook-ups. From a glance, it is crystal clear that I am promoting the love, family, and community values of proud African Americans.

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    • diouranke says:

      ” he just did not marry one. He and I were talking this past weekend and he said if he had married in this race, he would have never attended the Cambodian birthday party we went to a few weeks ago, attended a penthouse party hosted by two fabulous gay men in Buckhead last Friday night for the 4th of July or saw his Thai sister in law (my brother’s wife) get her nursing degree”

      what has that got to do with being white specificiallyt ? I guess Black women don’t have friends of different races or enjoy cultural events? I have Asian , Arabic and Indian friends, I go diverse places,i love different cultures and languages too. He wouldn’t have had to marry a white women specifically do that, I just found that statement interesting , presumptive and problematic. Just sayin…

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      • Truthangel07 says:

        I’m going to warn you right hear and now: GET OFF OF MY BLOG! If you want to be esteemed, go to Stormfront and tell all the white men there your story.

        Nobody is interested in hearing, yet, another story from a love-starved white woman who hides her racism through insinuations of who you think Black women are. Sweetie, Black women are not the ones who are looking at children that only impose the harsh reality of the negative birthrate of whites currently.

        Truly, the white woman’s vagina has become the Battle of Waterloo for your species. And I highly suggest, instead of taunting Black women, ask this question: Why are white women with everyone else instead of white males?

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  20. “Ouch. If I were a white woman I think this post would have hurt my feelings just a little bit. “They shed like dogs? No wonder they love them so much.” Seriously…? I’m not attacking you in any way, but I was wondering what your intentions were when you decided to write this pose. Are you against interracial dating?”

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    • truthangel07 says:

      I think your question is redundant. It’s very clear that I’m promoting Black love, community, and family values of the African American community.

      Everyone is not liberal and I for one am not going to promote something that does not value where I come from and who I am.

      And I really do not care if any feelings by white women are impacted.

      Black people put up with white folks on a daily basis and have to endure their innate ignorance of our culture, smile when they are demeaning us, and bite our tongues when they speak against us, all the while, trying to keep up the lie of a “post racial” society.

      Really?

      I don’t think so…

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  21. Dating a white women would be a downgrade in my opinion.lol

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    • truthangel07 says:

      Hello, K-man.

      What’s good.

      How’s Los Angeles? You behavin’?

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      • Just checking my emails. I’m going out with some friends tonight. It’s a group of my buddies and some female friends. They want to go see the film Think Like A Man Too. I have issues with Steve Harvey,like we discussed before. But I did see the first one. It had a few laughs. I hope this was is decent.lol

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      • truthangel07 says:

        Well, you’re with friends. I’m sure you’ll have fun.

        I’d love to visit L.A. right now….

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  22. Adeen says:

    Why do you care about these men? They aren’t thinking about us so I don’t see the need to worry about who they date and marry. Worry about people who love and care about you.

    Anyways I have moved on from African American males. Most of them can’t provide or care for me and aren’t worth my time. And they aren’t worth your time either.

    Find a good man who will love and care for you regardless of his race. What if the right man for you turns out to be a non Black male?

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    • truthangel07 says:

      Adeen, don’t let bitterness dictate your choices. With choices have consequences.

      I care because this is impacting the Black community in very negative ways and WE NEED TO WAKE UP!

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      • Adeen says:

        How is dating and marrying interracially negatively impacting our communities? There are many other races of men to choose from besides African American men. Black women can’t afford to limit themselves to African American men anymore especially when the pool of eligible and quality African American men is dwindling by the minute. There are good and bad men in all races. Thus as a young Black woman, I refuse to wait on Black men any longer.

        I used to swear off White men and non Black men. These days, I regret doing that. African American women shoot themselves in the foot when they declare that they wouldn’t ever date a non Black man. By limiting themselves to one culture of men, they are less likely to find a good man who love and can provide for them.

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      • Tyrone says:

        @Truthangel07

        Tunnel Vision Paralysis…Negative Traits of African People!

        As a people, we have a tendency to copy the negative qualities of other blacks. Right Now, swirling is all the rage. Meanwhile, our race is going to hell with the quickness. When your race is going down, latch onto another bandwagon…That’s What This Is! Either way, we still have nothing to be proud of. Blacks who mix assume they’re helping the race, How So? Our dna is diluted, mulattos are hit and miss at best. But, some black folk are so blinded by the status aspect of being with other groups that have more than we do. Race-Mixing is selfish, it’s not as pro-black as we’ve been told. I’m not impressed by it as a blackman. I’m from Miami, so, dealing with many types of women comes with the territory. Blackwomen are the finest specimens on the planet, no need to chase other women. Yeah, i find other women attractive, but, i don’t obsess about it like some brothas. First Rule…Love of Self!!!

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      • truthangel07 says:

        Here’s my question: Why should Black women feel any type of inferiority toward any non Black women when our bodies, physical features like our full lips, attitude, style, manner of speech, confidence, strength, etc., is the epitome of what a true woman is…and should be?

        Are people aware of just how much money white women in general spend on tanning, botox injections, lip injections, butt implants, etc.?

        And all of this because of how Black women look naturally…

        Really…we need to date a white man?

        I think not!

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    • mswanda says:

      I’m so proud of you Adeen. More young black women are waking up. You’ve come a long way baby. That’s right don’t wait for them because they are still not waiting for you. Quit worrying about men that could care less about you. These men are gone and not coming back and I accept that and I move own with my life. Please don’t confuse that with bitterness. See bitterness is worrying about something I can’t change. You can worry about it or move own with your life.
      Now Adeen please leave wm alone, I know its bad out there but trust me, you don’t want to go there. Anything but them. Whites are evil and I know from experience.

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    • TeddywearingJenny says:

      I hear you. But I just don’t trust white people. I think that most of them (not all) are inherently racist. Just when I think blacks and whites are becoming more unified, I end up shaking my head at some of the things they say, and the secret hatred they have for blacks. And those who don’t harbor hate, just have a general disregard for blacks–whether it’s a black person living out negative steretypes or an intelligent, well to do black person. They just don’t like us. But I’m not mad at anyone who finds love wherever they find it. Best wishes to you, sis.

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      • truthangel07 says:

        The happiest Black people of all are those who just don’t give a damn about what white people think, like, or have to say about us.

        They are happy in their own skin, love their God-given tans, and go about their business as if white folks never even existed.

        These are the Black people who walk with pride–and even when they walk in a room; people feel the power that emanate from them. Why? Because THEY KNOW WHO THEY ARE…and where they come from.

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