When you look into the eyes of most Black women, the power that is in those eyes is real. So powerful, some can be brought to fear and tears when gazing into them. That power comes from the inner knowledge of being the earth’s first mothers and queens. From the womb of a Black woman, ALL HUMAN LIFE evolved.
Black women have been indicted for their strength. We are the only females on the globe that outperform and are more educated than our male counterparts. However, the difference in Black women is that we do not use this to emasculate Black men. It is necessary for us to be high achievers because it makes absolute economic sense to do so. But the “strong” preface is what really gets to many and their seems to have been a campaign of sorts, meant to indict and weaken, this formidable representative of female power. We have to face sexism, racism, and heterosexism. We have to handle business when there is no man around; Hell! Bills still gotta get paid. Black women have a very strong work ethic–we have highest workforce participation but often, many have to work 2 jobs. Oh, well, we gotta eat.
The Black woman is not a whiner; she moves with the wind, handling each issue and problem with divine energy; and commands respect because of her ability to master any and all tasks with the mentality and attitude: “the job must be done“–with excellence of course…no excuses.
We get this strength from our fore-bearers. Most of us have strong mothers and grandmothers who set the examples for us. The were not spoiled and pampered. Many had to work right alongside their husbands, farming, while often having to work other jobs to make ends meet, as well as raising their own children.
My mother and grandmothers fall into this category. However, I was raised to believe I can do anything. Never once did anyone ever say to me that I couldn’t achieve something because I was Black or a woman. Just the opposite. My late godmother wouldn’t even allow the word “can’t” to be spoken around her.
Most Black women don’t really have an option to not be strong; it comes with our territory. Our men and boys face daily assaults and threats on their lives. Our enemy–the white male and his female counterpart, bask in their tactics to keep us at war with each other so that it weakens the Black family. We have to stay mentally acute, aware, and prepared for engagement, if necessary, to defend our communities and people. This is a reality we live every single day. There is no one to fight for us, unlike our white female counterpart, and this is the catalyst of THE STRONG BLACK WOMAN!
This is what many white women find out when they make the mistake of testing a female that is far superior to them in just about every single area. I am not saying this from vanity, but affirmation. It is what it is.
But let us examine where this power in Black women came from.
History has been controlled by the European male for over 500 years, and if one did not have the benefit of libraries, encyclopedias, and well-learned Black Scholars over time, we’d never know the names of Black queens who not only ruled with absolute authority, many fought right alongside the men against the enemies of Africa. Some of their names are known, others are not, but what is most definable is that the strength of Black women has a definite origin and legitimacy.
I will not entertain any thoughts that inhibit me from being the woman God envisioned the day he made me.
And this is what Black women must embrace as well; for we were designed with purpose.